We all have a purpose in life. We all have a mission

We all have a purpose in life. We all have a mission.

It’s never too late. Better late than never. This kind of expressions exist in almost all languages. Phrases that connect us with the opportunity and positivity.

I consider myself a defender of crises. That is, in these periods is when we grow more and we also learn more. That’s why I always say that crises are welcome because they help you to change something in your life and to take it to the next level.

It’s amazing and really motivating to see people who have radically changed their lives because they are driven by their passion, their desire to grow and improve their lives. But changing jobs is not an easy task. In fact, making such an important jump is only possible if our identity is really aligned with the objective.

And here’s the problem because most of us have an identity that limits us through fears, insecurity, limiting beliefs, patterns of behavior that no longer serve or at least aren’t the most appropriate to change.

Opinions or convictions such as “at my age it’s too late to reinvent myself professionally“, “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t“, “I won’t be able to find a good job if I leave mine” … they are what make us even dare to think about the next step.

But the good news is that it’s not impossible. In fact it’s important that we take into account that everything we believe in life, from us, the world, others are mere opinions … that our immediate environment, education, culture and our own experience have given us.

 

The most powerful beliefs are formed especially before experiences that mark us, and that indicate what is pain and pleasure. That is, human beings actually try to avoid pain and pursue pleasure. If a situation such as changing jobs is associated with a painful event (either because we have lived it, we have been told about it, we have seen it in the news, movies or books), the belief that professional change is created will be created in us linked to danger, but in reality it is not like that.

And for that reason we will try to avoid it.

That is why it is so important to question our beliefs. If you feel unhappy in your work and something inside tells you that you would like to change your profession, but you do not dare, try to find that limiting belief that you have regarding your current situation.

Ask yourself: what really scares me? What do I think will happen if I take the step to change?

Exit professional stagnation

 

And if you have finally realized that you feel stuck at a professional level and that you want to change but you do not know how, because you are afraid, insecure … I can tell you that it is something totally normal. Almost any process of change involves fear, doubts. I’ve been through all this.

And is that the best way to deal with situations of change is through acceptance, a process through which parts of a state in which you feel lost, blocked … until you reach a real transformation.

In this way, you will be able to clarify your doubts, understand why you think as you think, what you really need, how you can get it.

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Attitude is a decision

All of us at some point in our life, have seen ourselves in difficult situations, in which we can feel all kinds of feelings. However, there’s always some solution for this and we can act in these situations by managing them without problems if we take the right steps. And that’s where the role of attitude comes in.

Attitude is a decision !!!!

Attitude isn’t something we’re born with, rather it is developed thanks to our experiences and our way of thinking, feeling and behaving. Nor is it something we wake up with every day. Neither having a good attitude nor is it an eventuality that we’re a victim of, although having a good attitude is a conscious decision and therefore it’s our responsibility to make it born, grow and reproduce in our lives. 

We can’t control all the things that happen to us in life, but we can control the way we respond to them. This is the difference between success and failure, between well-being and psychological distress. In our hands is the power to change the way we react to bad things. It’s not about ignoring them, but about learning from them.
 
Nor is it about repressing our feelings or thoughts when things aren’t so good. What we must evaluate is whether our answers are coherent with what happens to us. Sometimes we make a mountain out of a molehill  because we don’t see the whole picture of things. At other times, we rationalize and think too much of something, causing our mind to become overloaded by something that doesn’t deserve such importance. In other circumstances, we let our emotions determine our thoughts and actions to the point that we don’t think things with a “cool mind.”
 
Thus, we’re inundated by emotions and thoughts that, instead of allowing us to face a problem, create a problem for us. Once our mind and our emotions are unbalanced, we’ll make bad decisions, we’ll make more mistakes, we’ll do things that will later regret and waste opportunities, time, mental energy and physical energy that we can never recover.
 

These are the devastating consequences of adopting an inappropriate attitude, of making the wrong decision.

After we recognize that attitude is our responsibility, we must keep in mind that having a good attitude is a decision we must take moment to moment. This is hard work at first, but it’ll make a big difference in our lives.

 

Say yes to morning routine

We sometimes find it hard to wake up, and we end up doing it with a bad attitude because we don’t want to get up from the dream we were having. We see mornings as the worst part of the day, for the responsibilities we have or the routine that this entails. The moment between we wake up and get to the office is like a dream and our routine is something so boring that we never thought to change it.

It turns out that the success of our day is based on what we do consistently, that is, it’s based on our morning routine. Therefore, before beginning with those small daily actions, I want to highlight the great importance of the first few minutes of the day.

As we know, mornings are important because our willpower is stronger in the morning than at any other time of day. Research has shown that willpower is a perishable resource, which is lost as we use it. During the day, making decisions, resisting temptation, and controlling the emotions, make our firmness exhausted, as well as our self-control erodes.

The result is that we are more likely to make bad decisions, yield to unproductiveness and other failures of self-control. The good news is, our willpower supply is stronger in the mornings.

But I must admit, all those responsibilities that I have to fulfill during my mornings are more important than I want to believe and the bad vibe I put can lead to something harmful for myself. The morning determines how I’ll act the rest of the day and a lot of mistakes can affect my productivity in the afternoon and evening.

So that it’s why morning routines are very useful. It’s a plan that you should do every day when you wake up. Whether it’s yoga, singing in the shower or drinking coffee while reading the newspaper, it should be constant. But what is if for? Some of the benefits of establishing a morning routine are:

  1. A routine every morning gives you a reason to get out of bed. We all need an impulse to get out of bed. A morning routine is the perfect excuse to start each morning in the best way and have the energy for the tasks that need to be done throughout the day.
  2. Goodbye to the alarms. Accustoming the body to get up at a specific time to start the routine in the mornings means there’s no need to have an alarm. Having the cell phone on to make use of the alarm is detrimental to sleep and is one of the main factors why people feel they do not get enough rest.
  3. It is a great way to start the day. Performing simple activities early in the day is a simple way to start a cycle of results that will give you the energy you need for the rest of the day. Sometimes something as small as a bowl of cereal can seem trivial until you have a hard day, remember the pleasant feeling you had that morning when you prepared the bowl of cereal.
  4. Make the most of your time. A morning routine will help you enjoy the luxury of taking some time in the morning for yourself when you wake up at an appropriate time.
  5. It is totally about you. True, you’ll have to deal with other people throughout the morning. But every morning you’ll have a few minutes just for you. It’s your chance to focus on yourself and prepare to face the day ahead.
  6. Happy morning. In training, our body releases endorphins (happiness hormone). This means that we will put an end to the bad mood in the mornings. If you’re able to demand to complete your routine in the morning, mornings will become easier and you’ll look radiant when arriving at work, school, etc. There’s nothing better than starting the day with positive mentality.
  7. Muscle mass. Studies show that our levels of testosterone and other hormones are higher in the morning. These hormones are crucial to build muscle mass, which means that when training in the morning you’ll see better results.
  8. Productivity. When you finish a training session in the morning you won’t be able to invent an excuse to skip it. If you complete your routine in the morning you’ll be more consistent but you’ll also have the rest of the day free to complete all the duties, meetings, work, etc. If you get up a few minutes before to finish your routine, not only you contribute to your health, it’ll contribute to the total productivity of your day!
  9. Metabolism. When training in the morning you activate your metabolism. Start the day with physical activity followed by a good breakfast. So, your body will understand this as a sign of an active day. Therefore, this will begin to burn calories throughout the day. In short, your body will be ready to burn calories at all times, so you’ll do all kinds of activities such as walking from one place to another. This effect is even more intense if you perform interval training!
  10. Clear mind. After a good workout the connection between your brain and your muscles will be heated and activated, making you feel very alert for the rest of the day. Thanks to this it’ll be easier to concentrate on tasks, exams, work or any type of difficult duty and to execute all the previous ones with greater effectiveness.

As we can see, having a good routine is ideal, but the most important thing is to have clear what you don’t want to do. I encourage you to make a list of things you don’t want to do in the morning and have it on your desk to make sure you check it out and do it every single day.

 

We love rituals. We love routine.

I sleep, wake up, it is late! I run, walk, stop. What is next? A coffee? A cup, hot water, a strainer, ground coffee and why not a bit of cacao, mix it all slowly, perceive with each sense how I empty it into the cup. Time stops because I am enjoying it. I have no idea what is going to come later and it does not matter because I am there happy, with full awareness of the pleasure.

In another scenario I agitate, block, there is a beginning and an end.

Between a ritual and a routine is the transience of time. In the first I do not lose sight of the detail, you go step by step and there is a real and emotional stimulus, there is a memory that moves me, there is a smile on my face and a sense of peace. The habit is fleeting and convincing, full of expectations and haste.

Every action taken each day, from the moment I open my eyes until I go back to bed, constitutes what we call “life”. In fact, I am so accustomed to hearing the word “routine” that I almost never stop to question it. But the word itself, understood as a monotonous repetition of mechanical acts, can become my worst enemy. Letting routine control my life is the best way to lose control over it. Routine can become people alienated, as well as, predictable and even invisible. Therefore, it is necessary to bet on a solution to avoid it: to be the ones who control the routine.

People say that life consists of a series of repeated acts. If we recorded our performance of each passing day, as if it were a movie… well we could observe that it can be difficult to differentiate a few days from others. I get up, get dressed, have breakfast, go to work, eat and so on… and this every day. Maybe it happens that any unforeseen thing that changes us the repetition of our actions causes a chaos that makes us crazy. It is true that nobody is born with an established routine, but we are continually molding our way of acting based on our needs and the different circumstances that accompany us.

I do not say that the routine is bad or I mean that we should not be subjected to it. From my point of view routines have benefits which are the following:

  1.    They are a kind of “extended mind” that reminds us of things we have to do with a certain frequency and that contain some complexity. In this sense, they are a good medicine to prevent forgetfulness and to avoid the neglect of small great things.
  2.    They help to consolidate some habits.
  3.    They base perseverance, a key element in the achievement of many achievements. If they have been well chosen, they are a good basis to go further than those who do not.

Some people say that they hate routines or that they make their days look alike and need variety and stimuli to put emotion in their lives, a point of uncontrolled adventure that opens the way to face risks, a sensation that causes a point of fear or in some cases even pleasure. Some others only, after a period of rest, applaud the return to the routine. As it seems, that gives them security understanding that everything is still in place.

What about rituals?

Ritual has a different connotation because each of the things that are done has an individual purpose, and all together have a global purpose. The overall purpose is to increase your degree of motivation as you advance in the steps until you reach a higher level at the end of the routine. They are a crucial part in winning and maintaining a sense of calm in the midst of the chaos of life. Rituals are a way to take care of us and de-stress us, meaning that in our frenetic lives we sometimes do not notice the role that daily rituals play to ensure good mental health. Relief when you exercise, clean the kitchen or relax for five minutes with a cup of coffee, rituals are a way to improve your life through healthy habits. Here are some reasons why it is good to have rituals and how they help us stay physically and mentally healthy.

  1. Clarity and peace of mind. Because ritual to be present helps you eliminate blockages and that will open a new way of living more peaceful that translates into making your life an easy and light path.
  2. Forgiveness and understanding. A ritual gives you the opportunity to stop your mind and to enter into you, in silence and with peace. At this point you will better understand the conflictive situations you have had in your life and the people who participated.
  3. Safety and direction. Having a conscious ritual will bring you above all, sense and directionality, which translates into security, optimism and life.

To understand a little bit more the difference between routine and ritual, below you can see the some basic points I thought of:

Activities we do unconsciously Activities we do for some purpose
Looks at the past Focuses on the future
Negative emotions: boredom, tiredness… Positive emotions: curiosity, security, peace…
Focuses on the fulfillment of activities Focuses on the process
Tasks are done to connect our mind Tasks are connected to external factors
It is an obligation It is fun

Rituals mold you, put your feet on the ground, charge you with energy, help you to see clearly, to concentrate, to reflect and give you moments of inner peace. I know it is not easy to find the time in the morning and change habits from one day to the next, especially if you have never practiced it before. The first days are difficult and we can easily become discouraged. However, if you feel that you need some changes I encourage you to try to create your own miracle tomorrow. I assure you that you will not regret this decision and you can also win a lot.